Queue – A to Z Challenge 2019

“Sorry” the woman behind the counter apologised, not sounding apologetic at all.

I looked at her with a quizzical look. What was she pretending to be sorry for? It wasn’t the queue I had waited in for the past two hours.

“Miss, I must tell you that you have waited in the wrong line.”

My heart sunk. “What do you mean?” I stuttered, suddenly hoping that it was April Fool’s day.

“Today, I cannot work on requests regarding A783B12?” She answered, like as if that was the most obvious thing in the world.

“What do you mean with A783B?” I couldn’t remember the remaining numbers.

“A783B12 is the type of query you have. And I only work on those on Mondays and Thursdays, but today we are Tuesday. You have waited in the wrong line!”

“Wait, what!? You must be pulling my leg right?” There was no answer just a big fat fake smile, no compassion. “Are you telling me that I queued for 2 hours for what, for you telling me that I have to come back in two days? I took the afternoon off work to come here.”

“Calm down young lady, or I will have to call security.” She answered violently. “I am not telling you to come back tomorrow, no, you have to get a different number form the computer, look your paper is G25 that’s not the right one. You need to get a paper with a U on it. Just go back to the machine, it will put you into the right queue!”

I glared at her in disbelief. All this waiting for nothing? The assistant at the entrance had asked me a few questions, had a look over my documents and then pressed a big button on a computer that then spat out a ticket.

“Madame, sorry, but I am not the one who pressed the button. Can you not do something for me? I have been here for hours. And as you said, the type of query I have is in your field of competencies, it is just well not the right day.”

“Nope, there is nothing I can do for you, just get into the right queue or come back on a different day.”

On a whim, I decided to join the A to Z Challenge this year. Knowing fairly well that making it would be the biggest challenge. For almost 3 years my blogging has been sporadic, work, kids and life get in the way. Still, I joined. I am lagging behind, and I got kicked off the master list. But I will finish, even if I will be late.


Period – P- A to Z Challenge 2019

The number of times I had my period in the last 6 years can be counted on my fingers. And no, I am not past menopause or taking hormones. My period stayed away due to 2 pregnancies and a lot of breastfeeding. After almost 3 years of no period, I started menstruating again last month. My son turned 2 last month too.

I had my first period when I was almost 14, it must be about 17 years ago now. Even though most of my female classmates had their period already, I had no idea what was coming at me. Some shared their first period, describing the horrible pain, sometimes there were mean period jokes (red paint on a swing was supposed to be the bleeding of one girl).

When it happened it took me by surprise. I wasn’t really prepared or ready, even though seen my age I should have been. It took me a lot of courage to ask my mom for tampons. For me, the topic was uncomfortable as I did not feel comfortable with the situation I was in. Every time I had my period I worried that someone might know, that I might stain my clothing etc.

So staining my clothing might have been an acceptable worry, but why worry about whether or not others knew? After all, it’s a monthly occurrence for most women. Still, for a very long time, I worried to ask my mom for supplies (when I shouldn’t have). Later on, I died inside of shame when I walked into a male friend (who had a girlfriend) while buying pads.

Now, I don’t feel uncomfortable talking about menstruating anymore. I am in a stable relationship, have two kids. Anyone who has had kids can attest that suddenly your body gets turned into the least private thing on earth. Monthly checkups during pregnancy and especially the very private questions after giving birth (and everyone seeing you naked, bleeding and whatnot) made me definitely more cool on the subject.

Promoting period pants on Instagram is currently in fashion and Michelle Obama on Tuesday said some very interesting things on the topic. We have to educate girls better, i.e. talk to them about their period and not expect that they have learnt everything about it in school. So don’t hide the tampons, put them into a sweet jar next to the toilet (my aunt displays them that way). Let people know “I am a woman and with that comes menstruating if you like it or not!”