“What is it?” the midwife asked S. after she laid screaming little one onto my chest. 

He checked.

“A girl!”, S. told us.

I had just given birth to a screaming little baby, a girl. I had not known until then.

During my pregnancy I did not want to know, if I was carrying a boy or a girl, what counted for me was to give birth to a healthy baby. At the ultrasound exams I asked not to be told.

People always asked me: “Boy or Girl?”

“I don’t know. It is a surprise.” I would answer.

“But don’t you want to know what it is? To buy the clothing? Decorate its room?” Were some of the questions I would hear.

Even though not everyone understood. My grandfather was very proud of us for not wanting to know in advance. My sister said she would be doing the same thing, because our parent’s did so in the past.

Somehow I knew deep inside me that little one would be a girl. At five months pregnant I dreamt of her first name. Little one picked it herself.

The name she has now was the only name we had. Thus in the delivery room we were a bit worried as we had not yet found a name for a boy…


Written by Solveig Werner

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40 thoughts on “G is for Girl – A to Z Challenge April 2015

  1. I’ve known a few people that choose to keep the sex a surprise and I admire them for that. I couldn’t wait to find out at my ultrasounds but I did have a feeling of what I would have. Such a sweet surprise you got at birth and how great you had a name. Your angel baby had warned you ahead of time 😃

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  2. Too funny–my sister and I were both named “Andrew” until we were born, my parents were so sure we were both boys. They scrounged for names as fast as they could: “Hey, why not Rachel?” Then, two years later and none the wiser: “Sarah?” Biblical names given by a couple of atheists!

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  3. With my first pregnancy, I was convinced I was having a girl. He was a boy. During my second pregnancy, I just knew I would have a little girl. I gave birth to another boy. When I found out I was pregnant for the third time, i figured it would be a boy yet again. This time the baby turned out to be a girl.

    I learned one thing from all of this … I am terrible at predicting the genders of my babies.

    Loved the story!

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    1. Thank you for sharing. I guess you felt that they were boys.
      For me finding a name in advance was a hard thing, thus I was happy to have dreamt of one. We were hesitating, we just did not want to jump to conclusions, at the moment we had to tell the nurse who was filling in the wristband, so there is no first name on there just a last name.

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  4. When I was pregnant, we also did not want to know . Who would want to buy only pink or only blue? We went for neutral things.

    Although I did not have an inkling of what gender my baby was. We where very happy she was a happy baby girl.

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    1. I agree the colour coding is a bit off, but so many people do go by it. Neutral is always good whatever the gender, if you have another baby or can give the clothes to someone neutral is better. I am even now annoyed when we receive clothing that is too colour coded…
      I was very hesitant at times regarding the gender as I had a very active baby, but my dream and I suppose I was hoping for a girl, made me think it would be a girl.

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  5. Surprises are good. I have three girls and one boy. I knew for all of them because my husband is very curious. But until I knew I had no idea for my first one. For #2 and # 3 since I felt the exact same way I assumed (rightly) that they would be girls. I was so different during my last pregancy that I suspected that we could have a boy. Like you we had only one name per child and they were easy to find as if they had been whispered in our ears. Great post, Solveig. And thanks for your visits. The cheese idea is cool actually.

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    1. Thank you for sharing your story. I have heard about the same gender feels the same. Well we will see what the future reserves for us 🙂
      I was grateful to have a name, as I am rubbish at finding names, I realise this with writing…
      Do it the cheese thing! It will be fun !

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  6. I didn’t find out my son’s sex either, and we actually used a midwife! The babe and I were healthy so we never had any ultrasounds. I kiiiinda felt like he was a boy (which I wanted!) so I liked the element of surprise. I actually forgot to look for a few minutes after he was born, because the midwife let me catch him and didn’t see!

    – Allison
    http://www.allisonwrites.com

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    1. Wow no ultrasound at all? In France you can have a home birth but I think you have to go to 3 ultrasound exams (which can be stressful), and you have something like 7 pre birth exams, these can be done by a midwife.
      Thank you for sharing you’re story!

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      1. We visited the midwife every month but I only had to have blood/urine tests done as required to make sure I was healthy and nothing would go wrong in birth. I’m sure if something was different I would have had to go for an ultrasound or go to the doctor, but I’m thankful everything was ok because I hate doctors, and actually had the ideal birth I wanted!

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  7. What a sweet story! I would have been content waiting until birth to find out the sex of our baby, but my husband had to know! He wanted a girl so badly and was thrilled when the ultrasound tech said those three magic words: “It’s a girl!” Maybe next time (if we’re that lucky), now that we have our girl, he’ll be up for the surprise of waiting.

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    1. Thank you. I am glad you liked it! In the delivery room they told us that they quite often have couples where only one future parent knows the sex of their baby.
      I wish you best of luck! Now that there is less pressure it might work out quickly, I do hope so for your family.

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            1. I have no idea, well I learnt that I have to check the spam folder from time to time. There is one comment in there that must be spam, at least I do not understand it at all, and it has nothing to do with the post it comments on.

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                  1. Yes, I actually had a spam that got through, because it was in a different language. I used a translator and it wasn’t a very nice message at all. I don’t understand why people do spam – what do they have to gain?

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    1. One of each, that is definitely great. I knew this kid who’s stepdad wanted a girl, well I think he had 5 little half-brothers and a little half-sister in the end, but I am not to sure about the sister…

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